The actual New Moon is over, and now we are waiting out the final few days until the first sliver of light is seen to start a new cycle. As for me, it came to pass as I had said it would. The emotional upheavals and situations around me and with the people involved intensified over the weekend. Yesterday, my child and the neighbor's child were involved into a nasty brawl, of which both kids received bite marks, bruises and scratches and foul mouthed, angry tempers resulting in the child's mother calling the police to have it sorted out. She was trying really hard to make it look as if I and my child were entirely at fault and to blame. I was allowed to go inside my home and not take part in that outrageous scene as I was being unfairly accused of "never doing shit about anything towards my son", but it was her child that started the whole thing to begin with by bullying and picking on my child. The police already saw and heard more than enough from her to understand this was a situation that was she was trying to blow way out of proportion. Do not ever scream at someone else saying you want to see marks on the other person's child that are just like yours and that they never do anything about what their child does or says that is just way out of line. Furthermore, another neighbor witnessed the fight and broke it up and also spoke to the police and clarified the situation a bit more, this was why I was allowed to go back inside and I never even had to speak to the police anymore after that because they did not feel the need to see or talk to me since it was her that called them to start with and they explained to her that she needed to separate her kids from everyone else's and if anything else happened she could file a report and go to court over it. Which will not happen considering she has more than enough other issues to deal with that will land her in worse dire straits if she decides to push her desire to cause mayhem and problems for everyone else but not deal properly with her own in the ways that she already should have done. I never did say that my child was not at fault because yes he did retaliate in mostly self defense and yes he did leave marks on her child, but when you have someone biting hard enough to leave bruises, and hitting you with a stick and screaming at you and trying to hold your hair and beat your head on the ground, well,, I don't see him standing there and just taking that treatment with a smile and a cheerful sunny disposition, or walking away as if he felt or experienced nothing! yes, my child has a breaking point to his temper and yes he does get loud and occasionally physical with it. But he is not a saint and I would like to know whose child is? We adults would probably take on a similar response if someone else treated us that way It does not matter if the children are opposite genders or whatever the reason is, bullying and fighting is the same regardless and there is going to be one or the other trying to defend oneself from their attacker and sometimes it gets a bit rough.
On the upside..after a long week of silence, my friend and I are back to speaking and tentatively trying to get along better, this was something I had hoped to see happen, as it was beginning to make me sad and depressed that we were having to put a distance between each other. Ironically it was the upheavals and fighting amongst we people down here that got us back to talking because I ended up going over to the same neighbors house this past Saturday to retrieve a item that belonged to him and bring it back to him, and not being able to retrieve them was not going to be a option, I firmly and stubbornly asked them to find and give it back and took it to him regardless of how they felt about it, the item was being used as a leverage tool to keep him in contact with them and as a reason to try and lure him down here to get it himself which was not going to happen. So I was asked to go on a retrieval and recovery operation that was finally successful. They had no right to keep something that belonged to him as a binding chain to keep him in their lives when he has been trying very hard to disengage himself from them and their lives and go on with his own. This is another bone of contention and strife between me and my neighbors, he is no longer part of their lives and is not their friend or anything else., but I am still in his life, this causes jealousy, anger, strife, arguments, and general discord between me and them because they cannot stand the fact that I am still holding onto my position in his life and I have no intention of allowing them to sever that bond no matter what they want to throw at me or him. Why do people want to keep trying undermine and destroy something that is already struggling to stay intact? Its the whole, "If I cant have it then no one else will either " mindset. Certain people have been trying very hard to break apart what should be a wonderful friendship and a strong bond because they cannot get over themselves and accept that it is their own doing he is not part of their lives anymore. The obsessive, controlling, dominative, manipulating, lying, using, chain yanking behavior from the other people involved has got to the point where its potentially dangerous and it has to end permanently.
As I am now typing, today is Tuesday and it is 2:41 am. yesterday afternoon, I got more upheaval and conflict brought to my door yet again by the neighbor's oldest daughter, earlier that day I had gone through a drawer of my clothes, of which some were given to me by them as they did not fit them anymore and I am the smaller size, so, well I decided since I was not wearing the given away clothes and I did not need them I was just going to bag them up and haul them away. As most people would do with unwanted belongings.. Later that night, I hear a banging on my door and I find a fuming and angry tween child on my door caustically demanding I give back her clothes and she wanted them right now and I was going to find them immediately and give them to her this minute! She had the nerve to plant her foot against my door while I was telling her to leave and stare me down and shout at me over this of which I told her where "her" things were and if she wanted them to go get them and leave me alone and get off my door. I all but had to push her away from my door and literally shut it in her face while she was still shouting at me because she had no intention of leaving. Why and how she believed she had any right or business even going through my trash bin to see what was in there I don't know because she would have never known the clothes were in there had she not been prowling in it to start with, or someone went and told her what I had done, because she was not outside when I took the bag out and wheeled the bin to the sidewalk. Coming to tell me off about what was in my trash and was no longer actually her property and demanding I give it back?? Yup.. just a excuse to come and start more drama and problems and chaos. Getting in my face and invading my space and shouting at me and trying to force yourself into my doorstep isn't going to get anyone anything but a slammed door in their face and told to leave and ignored like they don't exist until they get over their little hissy fit and learn how to act better. alas, things will become worse before they get better. Time will reveal all in due time. I am just going to sit back and allow The Goddess to do her work and see what unfolds in its own accord.
No comments:
Post a Comment